Dating for fun
“I’ve found that when you’re wrapped up in the process of dating and want so badly to have something work out with someone -anyone- it’s easy to forget that your choices aren’t limited to one person or the other. Probably because somewhere inside my head, I was thinking: “This guy is a really great catch and really great catches don’t come along very often, so I need to not mess this up.” Though I was authentically myself on the date, I still look back at the experience and wish I hadn’t been so focused on looking like I just stepped out of a catalogue and instead just showed up wearing something from my closet.There’s also the choice I always forget about: To not choose anyone in order to keep myself open to someone who IS right for me.” ~Rachel Machacek I’ve been talking with one of my girlfriends a lot lately about the craziness of dating. Ultimately the lunch went well (or so I thought) and we scheduled a second date…but he called and canceled the night before and I never heard from him again. I’m sure he’s a nice enough guy, but he had red flags that I overlooked because I wanted the excitement of liking someone again. Build someone up to be this perfect guy, or convince ourselves that because he looks “good on paper” he must be good for us? You’re not in it for the long-term, and you know you’re not in love. and obviously coming up with totally different viewpoints.Julie Says: Don’t Waste Your Time You’re not 100% into your relationship? You’re wasting valuable time you could be spending finding the honey of your dreams.One person makes it clear that he or she just wants to "have fun" and does not want a relationship or to get serious. When two people have an agreement that they are both wanting to be casual about their interactions with one another, it can be fun and enjoyable. We certainly hope that there is fun and enjoyment in love relationships and marriages, but there are also other elements that the casual dating experience does not usually include. There are many people who simply don't want to be in a love relationship.As time passes, however, confusion, disagreement and possible pain about this "non-relationship" grows. They may have had painful experiences in past relationships and still feel too vulnerable and wounded to jump back into another one now, or ever. So read our thoughts, and then tell us: how long should you be with someone you know you’ll never love? So what should you do – stick around and have fun until it fizzles out, or end things immediately because you know it’s not going to last? We want to know what you girls have to say about it.
And that’s far too much pressure and stress to put on yourself and on the situation. I would like to propose that we change our attitude toward dating a little bit.I’m suggesting guarding your heart and dating SMART.